Be fiercely protective of your energy.

Be fiercely protective about who you choose to give your attention and energy to.

So that you are giving love to the ones who matter to you.

There will be people who treat you in a way that makes you feel less, makes you feel like you’re not enough.

That’s not okay, and it will never,

should never,

be.

But it isn’t on you, nor is it on the other person. It really doesn’t matter whose fault it is, 

Because the outcome is always going to be the same.

They treated you the way they did, and it made you feel this way.

You don’t have to try to feel better about it, nor do you have to try to make sense of why they chose to do so.

You can, but just be clear about what you’re getting out of doing this;

is it worth the energy you’re expending?

They don’t have to treat you any better than they do too. They don’t have to treat you the way you wish they would treat you too.

It is what it is. 

And I think this is one of the most painful lessons I’ve had to learn this year, over and over again.

Because I refused to believe that people could want to cause pain the way they do.

And I refused a few more times till I realise that if I were my best friends,

And I see this happening to her/him?

F*ck :’)

If I can be that fiercely protective of my friend, why can’t I be that for myself too?

So.

Maybe it’s people, maybe it’s situations.

Whatever has happened for you, or may happen to you in the future,

I hope you understand that it always just… is what it is.

We can tell ourselves stories about what has happened, try to connect the dots and reason things out.

I just need you to be aware and clear to yourself,

about what you’re getting out of the choices you’re making.

If what you’re getting is worth the energy you’re spending on this, good ʕʘ‿ʘʔ 

If not, then you can choose differently.

And always,

Choose based on your values.

Always.

p.s Oh and last thing:’)

When you’re hurting, please.

Please remember not to hurt others too.

It’s possible to be kind even while you’re hurting.

Be with yourself, be with your own healing.

We often choose to stay in our reactive states rather than look deeper within to untangle the knot that’s causing us pain.

And when we react, too often do we end up hurting those around us,

especially the ones closest to us.

So please, the world is already full of pain and people intentionally causing pain to others.

The least we can do is to be kind,

and not be one of them too.

love,

val.