We live a life of patterns.
I hope this piece gives you that nudge of courage to
break out of your patterns into a life thats
your kind of wild and free.
We live a life of patterns.
It’s never about how we always attract the ‘bad’ ones;
it’s about how when the bad ones come, we respond to them in a way that allows them to stay.
It’s never about how we can never learn to love ourselves;
it’s about how when it comes to the journey of self-love, are we willing enough to persevere and hurdle through
the peaks and troughs of the challenges to come?
It’s never about how we just cannot stop being busy (and eventually, burnt out) with work;
it’s about whether we choose to own a different set of priorities when
it comes to the way we lead our lives.
Both me and you, we live a life of patterns.
And the key things here, is that our patterns need to be broken
in order for anything to change.
But, are you willing to?
Not just once or twice, but thrice
and a multiple lot more times?
And if we don’t take the courage to look at those patterns,
to learn to come to peace with how ugly and messy our own patterns can be,
we are always going to see ourselves running.
Escaping
from the reality of what is lying down there deep within our hearts and our design.
We have been programmed to respond in a certain manner,
to certain types of situation.
We have come to learn to respond in a certain manner,
to certain types of people.
We have been conditioned to respond in a certain manner,
to certain forms of words and language.
And we have a choice.
To be aware of what our own patterns are. To look at our patterns and
not run away in disgust
but to acknowledge it.
And also,
to understand that our patterns are not us.
I am not my pattern,
and you are not yours.
We own them, but we are not them.
Whatever you don’t find acceptable about yourself right now,
I just want you to begin to see that
you can change something about that.
It doesn’t always have to be about eliminating that part of you entirely;
sometimes, what we don’t appreciate about ourselves just cannot be removed.
It can be breaking that pattern of allowing that part of you
to be a reason you come down so hard on yourself.
It can be about slowly coming to peace with the fact that
“hey, I really don’t like this part of me. And that’s okay”.
small steps, you.
If your pattern is to wreck yourself up into pieces,
then break the pattern by choosing to wreck something else (without causing human harm).
If your pattern is to mentally break your self-esteem down into shreds,
then break the pattern by choosing to rip something else into shreds (again, without causing human harm).
If your pattern is to shove your wild emotions under the thickness of those walls you’ve built up around your heart,
then break the pattern by allowing yourself to feel the emotions.
Cry if need be.
We live a life of patterns.
Not every pattern needs to be changed;
some are good for us, some can remain.
But our patterns are very real,
and sometimes, if not most,
we aren’t aware of how our patterns actually feed into the very reasons
why we aren’t living out our lives in the fullest shade of freedom and lightness.
I wish for you to be able to tell me that you experience
what it means to live freely and lightly.
And thus I wish for you to begin (or continue)
understanding, coming to peace with, and if necessary,
learning to break out of the patterns that grip you.
love,
val
